Anatomy Of Unapologetic ME

I'm different, Damn your opinion.

I'm not perfect not even close to it; I never try to be someone. It’s me, myself in and out. I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. Everyone may not like me or I may not like everyone. I am a mental mastermind. I have a strong set of core beliefs and I continually weigh the risks and potential outcomes of any situation that comes my way. I am not overly concerned with the opinions of others and have realized that even though I can’t please everyone, as long as I stay true to myself, I’ll be just fine. I don’t waste My energy pondering about things that I can’t control which allows Me to focus on productive tasks, like developing new skills. I belong to the species that I can Be what You wants Me to Be,"I can be a next Mahatma Gandhi who love peace or I can be a Hitler who wants to destroy the man kind and peace (I mean in the community and at my own home)". I am mysterious, exciting and passionate! At times I'm driven by passion and determination, and at times I find myself being removed and detached. People find it hard to figure Me out, and it draws them closer to Me. I'm full of surprises, and spending time with Me is always fun and entertaining! I care deeply about friends and family, even though I may not always show it, and I often dream about making all My  dreams come true. I always DO what I say. I'll do even if I have to face a sea of problems, I prefers to face conflicts head on. I'm able to say the things that bothered ME to someones face, I don't hold back what I'm thinking although sometimes this can cause problems for Me. I'm a fighter in battle, I learn from My defeats and enjoy My victories. I am artsy and elegant. My imagination allows me to place myself in other people’s shoes, which allows me to easily understand and sympathize with those around me. When someone close to me is down, I never leave their side. I stand with them through their thickest and thinnest moments. I come from a middle class family. My childhood went through hardship. I am a self-made man. I learnt from personal experience more than from academy (I Was Born Intelligent... , Education Ruined Me! My grades don't define my intelligence & When I look back marks never make me laugh but memories do...). I believe in the real aspect of life, though at times I loiter around the imaginary world to get rid of stresses of real life struggle. I notice patterns everywhere and am likely to be quite good with numbers (I'm a Number crunching guy work behind desktop all day, every day). Though I tend to see things in black and white, I always try to base my conclusions on solid evidence and I'm in general, an excellent problem-solver. I’m a Visionary. I tend to see the future amazingly clearly in my head. I am so clever that sometimes I don't understand a single word of what I am saying.I'm an ordinary Man with extra-ordinary vision and that makes Me "Square peg in a round hole". I want to Myself that, People Know Me as a DIGNIFIED Gentleman. I'm short term pessimist long term optimist. "I want to live a simple life without stress or worry. I don't need a lot. I just want to be happy." My life quote reflects my attitude towards life and shows that I understood what really matters in life! This life motto suits me perfectly because it's the sum of all the personal experiences I made throughout life! I never lose sight of MY goals and I don't give up before I achieved them. MY friends know that Problem-solving ability is a part of my personality, just like Perfectionism is and that makes me a truly unique person! I am Calm, but Alert. Relaxed, but Ready. Smooth, but Sharp. Humble, but Confident. I'm shy and observant nature has treated me very well over the years. I'm very observant and I like to take a step back every now and then and look at the people in my life. These habits enable me to know better myrself and the people around , react perfectly in times of crises and know how to get myrself ahead in life. Although I am pretty shy, that has never stopped me from getting what I wanted. I work hard, invest, and pick the fruit of my labor with a big smile. However, I do have some faults I need to take care of: I tend to judge people too quickly, and that can sometimes hurt . Trying to give people a second chance from time to time and be a little more patient.  My Enneagram personality type is the Challenger. I pursue truth and I'm unwilling to compromise on what I know is correct. I'm self-sufficient and thrive when I work independently. I'm naturally adventurous and somewhat of a risk taker. I resent being controlled or manipulated and I crave freedom. My forcefulness can put others off, but when balanced l have the unique ability to challenge others and encourage them to seek the truth. Channel my inner crusading spirit for the meaningful things in life and don't get caught up on the small battles. I'm a warrior at heart and the fight awaits!

In simple words: I have a passion for perfection, I like to challenge myself, and I appreciate diversity. I'm committed to personal aesthetics, excel in finding problems and solutions, and have a driving force to create. I have boundless imagination and an open mind.

Disclaimer : I am a real person. I struggle, and I sparkle. I'm  no longer afraid to say what makes Me angry, sad,or what I think is unfair. I'm not scared to admit that at time I feel worthless, lost or not enough. I'm also not hiding from love, beauty, aliveness, magic or abundance anymore. I will not edit the sad,angry for f*cked up part of my story, or the holy magnitude of my triumphs to make anyone comfortable. I'm a real person. I struggle and I sparkled.

Warning:

Don't Believe All The Rumors You Hear About Me, because The Truth Is Much Worse! I'm not perfect. Never have been & never will be...

My Emotional Intelligence

Emotional intelligence is one of the essential soft skills in life that’s incredibly important to personal and professional success but often goes overlooked and undiscussed.

I'm Constantly Striving To Understand The Human Condition.I notice everything – the way someone hesitates before they speak, the way their eyes light up when they see someone they love. I often notice all the things other people seem to miss and I seek understanding for the logic and motivation behind how people behave. I want to understand the human condition from every angle because it help me to give insight and perspective of my own life.

I'm Inherently Curious About The Way Other People Live. I love talking to people from varying cultures and backgrounds because I love learning about how other people live and what makes them tick. I enjoy seemingly random interactions with strangers because that’s where I can often learn the most about other people.

I'm Aware About my Shortcomings And Strengths. I know the things about myself that make me not such an ideal person and I'm also aware of the things that make me really great. I know I have bad habits. I know I'm not a good communicator , but because I'm much  aware of these things I actively try to work on them when they come up. I also know what makes me excel in life and I'm always looking for ways to improve on those traits.

I Place An Emphasis On Living In The Moment Rather Than In The Past Or In The Future. I don’t believe living in the past or hoping for the future has any value here, in the now. I would rather experience what’s currently happening as deeply and fully as I can, instead of reliving the memories of yesterday or the stories of promise for tomorrow. I have accepted my past for what it is and know I can no longer go back, just as I understand my future is merely a dream I like to live in to give me hope but have yet to actually experience it.

 I Actively Try To Understand my Moods And Change Them When They Go Bad. When I get angry, sad or jealous about something I have a self-awareness about it. I experience my emotions as they’re happening with the perspective of trying to understand why exactly I'm feeling this way. I understand emotions are the way my body processes my thoughts and because of this, I attempt to alter my thoughts before spiraling emotionally out of control.

I Confront People As Issues Arise Instead Of Letting Them Fester Within. When an issue comes up between me and another person I would rather deal with it right away than not saying anything at all and letting it create residual problems between me.

My Motivations Come From Within myself, Not From Outside Influences. I live for myself and the motivations within. I listen to what people say – my peers, friends, parents – but ultimately, I'm  going to seek out a life and achievements based on what drives me deep within myself.

I'm  Always Working On Personal Development. I feel restless when life becomes stagnant so when I'm hit a lull I begin to think about how to get out of it. I start considering my interests, job, friends, and how I could do things differently to improve upon these areas.

 I Genuinely Enjoy Listening To Other People And Helping Them With Their Problems. I have an ability to make other people feel calm and accept my presence.  When they’re around me they feel like they can say anything. I ain't gonna judge them for what they’ve done but instead, I’ll actually listen and give constructive feedback. It’s not just one way for me though. I genuinely enjoy connecting with people, whether it’s my  friends or family, or random people that talk to me, and listening to what’s going on in their life.

 I Have An Empathetic Nature For Everyone.
When people talk to me about the struggles they’re currently experiencing, I can often feel and understand their pain, even if it’s something I haven’t personally experienced. I can imagine what it must be like for them and how this obstacle is affecting the rest of their life.

I'm  Somewhat Of A Social Chameleon.
I change my behavior based on who I am with. This doesn’t mean that I ain't genuine in my personality but that's my awareness of other people’s moods and I try to match their energy level so I'm on the same wave length.

 I Listen To my Intuition And Let It Guide me When Making Tough Decisions.
As soon as I get that subtle hit of my intuition telling me something isn’t right I know I should listen to what my mind is telling me and look a bit deeper into the situation before proceeding further.

 I Don’t Have A Problem Saying “No Thanks” If I Need To. As much as I understand other people’s desires and I want to help them out, I also understand what’s best for me and my situation. I'm not afraid of other people’s thinking and telling them No when I have to.

I Can Read People Well.I have an inherent sense about people and understand what they want or what they’re thinking without them having to say anything directly about it. Through social cues and behaviors I just get a feeling about things and know when someone is telling me something, even when they’re not saying anything at all.

Anatomy of my personality

My inner seeker wants to explore the unknown. I have a strong intuition that there is something bigger and greater beyond my own reality. I embrace learning and I'm ambitious, although my perfectionist nature sometimes reaches too high and I end up disappointed. My inner warrior is courageous, tough and always persistent. I aim to bring meaning to my own life and to others’ through my actions and behavior. I am often over-competitive at the expense of other people, but it’s a part of my desire to always succeed.

Life Goals: Search for a better way, winning
Fear: Conformity, entrapment, weakness, failure
Response to Problems: Escaping, fighting if the reward is great enough
Life Tasks: See the world, be a strong person
Personal Gifts: Autonomy, ambition, identity, courage, discipline
Personal Pitfalls: Inability to commit, chronic disappointment, arrogance, ruthless

বোবার যেমন শত্রু নেই তেমনি বোবার কোন বন্ধুও নেই।

 শামুকের মতো এক ধরনের মানুষ আছে যারা নিঃশব্দে চলে। আছে সবার সাথেই কিন্তু এদের অস্তিত্ব টের পাওয়া মুশকিল। এরা আড্ডায় আলোচনায় সব খানেই নিরব ভঙিতে মাথা ঝোলায়। বেশির ভাগ সময় এদের নাম অনেকেরই মনে থাকে না, মনে করাতে হয় বিশেষ কায়দায়।

তোর সাথে একটা ছেলে / মেয়ে ছিলোনা? কি যেন নাম!  আরে ওই যে সব সময় চুপ চাপ থাকে?

এরা বেশির ভাগ সময় মনে মনে কথা বলে। এ ধরনের মানুষ গুলি খুব পঁচানি খায়। লাজুক ভঙিতে হাসি দিলেও মনে মনে মনে ঠিকই খুব সুন্দর একটা উত্তর সাজিয়ে রাখে কিন্তু সে উত্তর এরা কখনো কাউকে দিতে পারে না।

এরা কিছুটা আবেগী হয়, ঝগড়া করতে পারেনা তবে অভিমান করে প্রচুউর। সেই অভিমান অনেকে বুঝতেও পারে না।

ধরেন আপনি তাকে খুব আঘাত করে কিছু একটা বলেছেন সে সাথে সাথে তার উত্তর দিবে না। হয়তো একদিন পরে, মাঝরাতে দেখবেন বিশাল এক ম্যেসেজ ।তার আগা গোড়া পুরোটাই লেখা তার কষ্টের কথা, আপনার প্রতি তার টানের কথা।

এদের সেন্স অফ হিউমার খুব একটা ভাল না। সাথে সাথে এরা কোন উত্তর খুঁজে পায় না, কথার পিঠে কথা সাঁজাতে পারেনা, তবে একটু সময় নিয়ে করে ফেলতে পারে দারুন কিছু। এদের বেশির ভাগেরই থাকে কিছু হিডেন প্রতিভা। খুব কাছে গেলে দেখবেন আনমনে এরা যে সব আঁকি বুকি বা লেখা লেখি করে তা যে কোন প্রফেশনালকেও হার মানিয়ে দিবে।

প্রশংসায় প্রচন্ড লজ্জা পায়, কিছু একটা বলতে গেলে কথা গলায় জড়িয়ে যায়।ধরা যাক দশ জনকে একটা প্রশ্ন করা হলো। উত্তরটা কেউ জানেনা জানে শুধু সে, কিন্তু সে উত্তরটা দিবে না।  বড় জোর পাশের কাওকে  হয়তো ফিশ ফিশ করে বলবে। তার কাছ থেকে শোনা উত্তর নিয়ে কেউ একজন হিরো বনে যাবে আর সে? আগের সেই গুড ফর নাথিং!

এরা কারো নজরে পড়তে চায় না, কারো চোখে চোখ রাখতে পারেনা। শুধু সব কিছু দেখে অবাক বিষ্ময় নিয়া। মজার ব্যাপার হলো এরা নিজেরা কথা কম বললেও যারা খুব সুন্দর গুঁছিয়ে কথা বলে তাদের খুব পছন্দ করে।

ফেইস বুকে এদের একটা মজার স্বভাব আছে, এরা কাউকে কমেন্ট করেনা। ভাল লাগার মানুষটাকে লুকিয়ে লুকিয়ে দেখে, প্রতিটা ছবি সেভ কোরে রাখে, কিন্তু কখনোই কমেন্ট করে না।এরা জীবনে অসংখ্য বার প্রেমে পড়ে, যখন তখন ক্রাশ খায়। কিন্তু এদের প্রেম কল্পনা অব্দি। এরা খুব করে চায় কেউ তাদের না বলা কথা গুলি বুঝে নিক যা বেশির ভাগ সময়ই হয় না। পৃথিবীটা অন্যরকম এখানে বোবার যেমন শত্রু নেই তেমনি বোবার কোন বন্ধুও নেই। যাদের জন্য তোমার ভিতর টা হাহাকার করে তাদেরকেই প্রশ্ন করা হলে বোলবে - হুম ভালো একটা ছেলে/মেয়ে ছিলো আমাদের সাথে পড়তো নাম মনে নাই! অতএব খোলশ ছেড়ে বেড়িয়ে এসো, পৃথিবীকে তোমার অস্তিত্বের জানান দাও। দশ জনের সামনে দাঁড়িয়ে যাও, চোখে চোখ রেখে কথা বলো। প্রথম প্রথম অনেক ভুল ভাল বলবা, কেউ কেউ হাসবে বাসায় এসে লজ্জ্বায় চুল ছিঁড়তে ইচ্ছা করবে। কিন্তু বিশ্বাস করো বলতে বলতে তুমি শিখে যাবা। এই পৃথিবীতে উত্তর দেয়া টা খুব জরুরী মাথা নিঁচু করে থাকাটা এখানে বোকামী।


(ঘটনা এই অধমের মস্তিষ্কপ্রসুত ও অবাস্তব ..., কেউ গুগল করে বিভ্রান্ত হবেন না। গল্পের প্রত্যেকটি চরিত্র কাল্পোনিক এবং কোন সত্য বা অর্ধ সত্য ঘটনা অবলম্বনে লেখা হয়নি। অনেক মানুষেরই জীবনভর বিচিত্র গল্পো থাকে, তাদের হার না মানা যুদ্ধোকে স্বাগত জানাই।)

লাইক, কমেন্ট এবং শেয়ার করে সাথে থাকুন।

Life Quot

I don't regret my past, I just regret the time I spent with the wrong people.

This statement reflects my attitude towards life perfectly and shows that I'm incredibly Honest and Resilient towards Life. I've  experienced so much in life already and every challenge I've faced has made me so much stronger.

Fitting In

Finding your tribe is more important than ‘fitting in’

Honestly, if you have to change yourself to fit in with a group of friends, then they are the wrong friends for you. That doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with them, they are just not a good fit for you.

Instead of changing to meet the expectations of others, spend your energy on finding your tribe: the people that think in a similar way to you, have similar values to you and like to do the things that you like to do.

Finding your tribe is like coming home. Suddenly, you don’t have to pretend anymore. You can be yourself and others love and appreciate you just the way you are.

Service thy self

Choose to serve your own values rather than society’s

When you think about the acceptable paths as prescribed by society, consider whom they serve. Getting a job with a monthly pay packet might seem to serve you, but actually, you are just using your talents to make money for others. Buying fancy clothes or fast cars might seem to be rewarding you, but actually, you are lining the pockets of big business.

And countless studies have shown that materialism doesn’t make us happy anyway. I’m not saying that having a steady job or buying nice things is wrong, I’m simply suggesting that you question everything and act upon your own desires rather than society’s expectations.

When you choose to do the things that serve you, rather than politicians, big business bosses , and even family and friends, you will being to live a more authentic life and discover a deep sense of belonging that can never be found by merely fitting in.